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925075: The Complete Christian Guide to Understanding Homosexuality: A Biblical and Compassionate Response to Same-Sex Attraction The Complete Christian Guide to Understanding Homosexuality: A Biblical and Compassionate Response to Same-Sex Attraction
By Joe Dallas & Nancy Heche

* What is homosexuality? How should believers address this hot-button issue? In this reader-friendly guide, Dallas and Heche offer insights on how to respond when a friend announces that he or she is gay; the legal ramifications; gay marriage and adoption; and more. The go-to manual for families, pastors, counselors, and those who struggle with same-sex attraction. 450 pages, softcover from Harvest.

885536: How People Change How People Change
By Timothy S. Lane & Paul David Tripp

A changed heart is the bright promise of the gospel. When the Bible talks about the gift of a new heart, it doesn't mean a heart that is immediately perfected, but a heart that is capable of being changed. Jesus' work on the cross targets our hearts---our core desires and motivations---and when our hearts change, our behavior changes. It's amazing to watch people who once seemed stuck in a pattern of words, choices, and behaviors start living in a new way as Christ changes their hearts.

321323: Turning Controversy into Church Ministry: A Christlike Response to Homosexuality Turning Controversy into Church Ministry: A Christlike Response to Homosexuality
By W.P. Campbell

This book covers such topics as the nature/nurture debate, law vs. grace, and scripture’s call to holiness. Readers are equipped with understanding and language to converse about each topic in a truthful, loving, and insightful manner. Likewise, Campbell suggests ways churches can build ministry in five critical areas: leadership training, preaching, support groups, mentoring/counseling, and outreach.

92598: Pursuing Sexual Wholeness Pursuing Sexual Wholeness
By Andrew Comiskey

Those dealing with homosexuality in their lives can be transformed by applying Comiskey's in depth teaching on key issues such as sexual wholeness, orientational change, repentance, realigning desires and breaking the addiction. Includes Comiskey's own story on dealing with homosexuality.

906334: The Game Plan The Game Plan
By Joe Dallas

You need a powerful strategy to get free and stay free from sexual sin. The Game Plan was designed specifically for men by well-known Christian counselor and speaker Joe Dallas. Based on his own hard-earned lessons and sound biblical principles, Dallas's proven five-point strategy will help you overcome sexual snares.

122430: Addiction and Grace: Love and Spirituality in the Healing of Addiction Addiction and Grace: Love and Spirituality in the Healing of Addiction
By Gerald May

In Addiction & Grace Dr. Gerald May details the various addictions from which we suffer-not only to alcohol and drugs, but also to work, sex, performance, responsibility, and intimacy. As an experienced psychiatrist working with the chemically dependent, May offers a critical yet hopeful guide to a place of freedom based on contemplative spirituality.

21086: Safe People Safe People
By Drs. Henry Cloud & John Townsend

Do your "people connections" lift you up or drag you down? If you often make "wrong" choices in love, work, or friendships, you can learn to find people who are good for you! Cloud and Townsend identify traits of untrustworthy people, offer practical strategies for forming healthy associations, and reveal things about yourself that jeopardize relationships. 208 pages, softcover from Zondervan.

06146: Battle for Normality Battle for Normality
By Gerard Van Den Aardweg

This book is primarily for those persons drawn towards homosexuality and who seek practical advice in order to change, or, at least, to deal with it constructively and responsibly.

462134: Craving for Love Craving for Love
By Briar Whithead

Today's church is filled with self-gratifying obsessive behaviors. We ask too much of our relationships, expecting them to deliver meaning, which only Jesus can give. We set up food, work, people, and money as replacements for the one and only true God. And then we are disillusioned when our needs aren't met. In this book, born from the author's own experiences as a relationship addict, Briar Whitehead examines the whys of addiction, the affects of addiction, the steps toward healing, and the role of the church in it all. The author asserts that homsexuality is one of the clearest expressions of the tendency to make someone else an "all-in-all" in the attempt to relieve emotional pain.

944384: Healing the Masculine Soul Healing the Masculine Soul
By Gordon Dalbey

The politically correct crowd demands that men be more sensitive to tame their masculine nature, while the media constantly bombard men with macho images of violence and lust. Learn how Gods' design for the masculine soul dares men to be as He created them to be and not as society demands. Completely revised and updated.

96205: From Bondage to Bonding: Escaping Codependency, Embracing Biblical Love From Bondage to Bonding: Escaping Codependency, Embracing Biblical Love
By Nancy Groom

If you suffer from codependency, this book will show you how to break free from damaging influences and make genuine, biblical love a central part of your daily life. In this thorough and nontechnical guide to assessment and recovery, Nancy Groom takes you beyond simply escaping codependency. She goes on to help you tackle the tough questions you'll face as you emerge from destructive relationships.

22461: Caring for Sexually Abused Children: A Handbook for Families & Churches Caring for Sexually Abused Children: A Handbook for Families & Churches
By R. Timothy Kearney

Dealing with sexual abuse is painful, especially when it involves a child you care about. And when it happens in communities and churches, we all bear the pain and need help in knowing how to respond. This book will help you deal with this sensitive subject.

58590: Boundaries, Hardcover Boundaries, Hardcover

This best seller, by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, delivers biblically based methods on how to set healthy limits with a parent, spouse, child, friend, co-worker and even yourself while still being a loving person. It will leave you feeling empowered without guilt or fear.

50589: Facing Codependence Facing Codependence
By Pia Mellody

What is codependence? Where does it come from? How does it sabotage your life, or the lives of your parishioners or clients? In this new resource, Pia Mellody identifies codependent behavior and traces its origin back to childhood, describing a horrendous range of emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical, and sexual abuses. And she outlines effective recovery therapy that enables codependents to re-parent themselves. 224 pages, paper from Harper & Row.

823689: Strength in Weakness: Healing Sexual and Relational Brokenness Strength in Weakness: Healing Sexual and Relational Brokenness
By Andrew J. Comiskey

Andrew Comiskey sees our weakness as "a threshold for holy power" - the point at which God can meet us for healing and equip us for service. It has been true for him and his wife, Anette, and hundreds of others they have ministerd to. Telling real-life stories of despair, hope and lasting change, Comiskey lays out the foundations for healing from relational and sexual sin. This book makes clear the way to the cross - God's sufficient answer to our deepest needs.

912150: The Father Heart of God: Experiencing the Depths of His Love for You The Father Heart of God: Experiencing the Depths of His Love for You
By Floyd McClung

This timeless classic reveals the freedom and healing that come from discovering God as the Father--eager to meet needs, ready to give love. Readers will learn: how to deal with heart issues that prevent them from calling God "Father"; how the Father's compassion heals the deep emotional wounds caused by earthly fathers who don't know how to love...or who just aren't there. Includes study guide.

32259: Wounds That Heal: Bringing Our Hurts to the Cross Wounds That Heal: Bringing Our Hurts to the Cross
By Stephen Seamands

Pain is a fact of life. Tragedies of all kinds afflict us and the ones we love. But we're not alone in our suffering. Balancing sound biblical exposition with sensitive pastoral care, Seamands demonstrates how God enters our lives through Jesus' crucifixion---and brings healing and redemption. Filled with real-life stories of forgiveness and new life. 184 pages, softcover from InterVarsity.

5916X: listening prayer: learning to hear god Listening Prayer: Learning to Hear God's Voice and Keep a Prayer Journal
By Leanne Payne

Amidst the noise and confusion of your life, can you hear the still, small voice of God? In this ear-opening book, Payne helps you remove the roadblocks that keep you from hearing God's Word and gives you practical instructions on how to begin a prayer journal. As you learn to listen to God, you'll discover the riches of a deeper, more fulfilling prayer life. 264 pages, softcover from Baker.

5320X: Crisis in Masculinity Crisis in Masculinity
By Leanne Payne

Leanne Payne has identified a painful wound which runs through the heart of our culture: sons and daughters who feel abandoned and unaffirmed. Her solution is profound and simple; she calls on fathers to affirm their children. But how can fathers affirm their children if they have never been affirmed themselves? Leanne shows how another Father works grace in earthly fathers' lives, and she shares hard-won insights from the depth of her experience with prayer, particularly with prayer for healing of this particular wound.

5348X: The Healing Presence The Healing Presence
By Leanne Payne

Leanne Payne explains the basis of her counseling ministry - Christ's indwelling presence that brings the power of the incarnation into wounded lives.

Leanne Payne has ministered to thousands through her Pastoral Care Ministries (PCM) seminars. Her books have sold over 100,000 copies and have been translated into several languages.

0214637: Changes That Heal: The Four Shifts That Make Everything Better...And That Anyone Can Do Changes That Heal: The Four Shifts That Make Everything Better...And That Anyone Can Do
By Dr. Henry Cloud

The Bible states that we're created in the image of God. But why don't we see a "family resemblance"? The problem, says Dr. Cloud, is underdeveloped "tasks" of maturing: bonding, separating from others, sorting out good and bad, and becoming an adult. Discover what changes to make to promote emotional and relational healing. Includes study guide. 368 pages, softcover from Zondervan.

424356: What Do I Say to a Friend That's Gay? What Do I Say to a Friend That's Gay?
By Emily Parke Chase

This timely book teaches teens and young adults how to openly minister to gay friends and deal with personal questions regarding the social ambiguities of homosexuality. Discussion questions at the end of each chapter stimulate individual or group study.

713581: Ministering to Gay Teenagers: Practical Help for Youth Workers and Families Ministering to Gay Teenagers: Practical Help for Youth Workers and Families
By Shawn Harrison

Learn how to minister to a group of people who need to experience the love of Jesus in powerful, tangible ways. With truths drawn from his own personal experiences, youth pastor Shawn Harrison seeks to equip youth workers, parents, and churches in ministering to gay teenagers, their families, and the gay community.

212406: Compassion Without Compromise: How the Gospel Frees Us to Love Our Gay Friends Without Losing the Truth Compassion Without Compromise: How the Gospel Frees Us to Love Our Gay Friends Without Losing the Truth
By Adam T. Barr & Ron Citlau

How is Scripture's teaching on homosexuality "good news" to a world that increasingly finds that message intolerable? And how can we love our gay friends without compromising biblical truth? Sharing Ron's journey from sexual brokenness to healing, Barr and Citlau bring empathy and pastoral wisdom to a controversial topic. Foreword by Kevin DeYoung. 144 pages, softcover from Bethany.

828591: Understanding Gender Dysphoria: Navigating Transgender Issues in a Changing Culture Understanding Gender Dysphoria: Navigating Transgender Issues in a Changing Culture
By Mark A. Yarhouse

A helpful introduction on issues related gender identity

Few topics are more contested today than gender identity. Complex issues like gender dysphoria are reduced to slogans and sound bites, and transgender individuals end up being the casualties.

Mark Yarhouse, an expert in sexual identity and therapy, equips the church to rise above the political hostilities and listen to people's stories. In Understanding Gender Dysphoria, Yarhouse offers a Christian perspective on transgender issues that eschews simplistic answers and appreciates the psychological and theological complexity. The result is a book that engages the latest research while remaining pastorally sensitive to the experiences of each person.

Yarhouse calls Christians to come alongside those on the margins and stand with them as they resolve their questions and concerns about gender identity. Understanding Gender Dysphoria is the book we need to navigate these stormy cultural waters.



The Transparent Life - Learning to Live Without a Mask
by McKrae Game

The Transparent Life is a biblically based novel that is focused around James 5:16, "Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective." McKrae shares intimately about his life journey and helps the reader learn to live in freedom through throwing down their mask.

427360: Messy Grace: How a Pastor with Gay Parents Learned to Love Others Without Sacrificing Conviction Messy Grace: How a Pastor with Gay Parents Learned to Love Others Without Sacrificing Conviction
By Caleb Kaltenbach

Raised by LGBT parents, Caleb Kaltenbach was very familiar with some Christians attitudes toward gays, based on the hatred and bitterness often directed toward his family. It's not surprising then that as he grew into a young man he wanted very little to do with those who claimed to follow Jesus. As a student, Caleb started attending a Bible study and youth group with the purpose of learning more about Christianity in order to attack it. However, the more he learned about Jesus, the more he wanted to know, which ultimately lead to his conversion. Ironically, Caleb was a Christian teen "coming out" to his gay parents.

In Messy Grace, Caleb chronicles his journey of showing love to his family and the LGBT community, while believing the truths proclaimed in the Bible. He also gives hard-earned advice to Christians seeking to understand the tension of real relationships lived in the balance of love and truth. Includes Reflection and Discussion Questions for individual or group study.

718170: Destiny Bridge Destiny Bridge
By Frank Worthen

Frank recounts his life of living in homosexuality into his 40's, coming to Christian faith and then being called into ministering to others. Frank has completed 36 years of ministry to other gay men and women.

516187: Understanding Sexual Identity: A Resource for Youth Ministry Understanding Sexual Identity: A Resource for Youth Ministry
By Mark A. Yarhouse

Today's youth struggle with difficult questions of sexual identity. How can a youth worker offer wise care and counsel on such a controversial and confusing subject?

Mark Yarhouse, director of the Institute for the Study of Sexual Identity, equips youth ministers so they can faithfully navigate the topic of sexual identity in a way that is honest, compassionate, and accessible. Reframing the focus away from the culture wars, Yarhouse introduces readers to the developmental considerations in the formation of sexual identity---all of which occurs in the teen years. He offers practical and helpful ways to think about homosexuality along with suggestions for talking with people who experience same-sex attraction. He also helps parents and youth volunteers learn to graciously respond to children and teens who struggle with questions of sexual identity, and discusses how youth ministry can become more relevant in the lives of youth who are navigating these issues.


Freedom Realized

A passionate and convicting book that gives clear evidence that people, in fact, find lasting freedom from homosexuality and freedom from a life defined by "gay" identity fallacies. Polled over a period of 13 months, respondents to a First Stone Ministries’ survey from a 25-year period of ministry (1990-2015), provided evidence that God  has indeed produced the healing available through the Gospel of  Jesus Christ. The results are amazing!  Truth is, many people have found lasting freedom!

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Path Through the Wilderness

Path through the Wilderness is a comprehensive workbook for men and women who struggle with relational and sexual brokenness. It explores dysfunctional relationships with God and others. A scripturally based approach is used to tackle the difficult topics of intimacy, desire, and gender. This book can be used for individual study but also works well as a curriculum for small group settings. The goal for those who apply the principles in this book is to become more the men or women the Father has created them to be.

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All Things New

A Discipleship Ministry manual for people who experience same-sex attraction and those who experience sexual brokenness as a result of exposure to homosexual conduct.

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Hope For Wholeness Leader's & Participant's Package

A Christian discipleship program for people leaving homosexuality. It has 18 videos (DVD), Leader’s Manual, Leader’s DVD, Participant Workbook, and promotional material.

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Transformed Into His Image: Hidden Steps on the Journey to Christlikeness

We are all called to be saints, to give our lives in service to the King, to be empowered by His living presence within us, indeed, to lawfully wed our Bridegroom-Jesus Christ. This book will call you deeper into the life that God created you to have.

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The Healing Word

Excellent spiral bound book of scriptural prayer for your homosexual loved one.

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Setting the Captives Free

Offers freedom and healing for the sexually and relationally broken through the Lord Jesus Christ.

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Please Don't Say You Need Me

A classic book on identifying and dealing with the cycle of codependency.

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Sexual Identity: A Guide to Living in the Time Between the Times

Written by Dr. Mark Yarhouse of Regent University, the focus of this book is helping same sex strugglers live in a way that is consistent with their beliefs and values while they work on their healing.

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Handbook of Therapy for Unwanted Homosexual Attractions

Provides descriptions of seven approaches to providing therapy for unwanted homosexual attractions.

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Waking the Dead

Waking the Dead leads readers to understand how to live from the heart and to care for the heart like treasures of God's Kingdom.

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Breaking Free: Understanding Sexual Addiction

Russell Willingham shares from his own experience and that of the many he has counseled who struggle with a sexual addiction.

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Healing Wounds of the Past

A resource to help address hurts from the past that keep us in bondage.

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