Kristin Tremba struggled with gender identity and same sex attraction throughout the early years of her life. She experienced emotional intimacy with a good friend during college and through those feelings she concluded that she was gay. However, she didn’t want to take on that gay identity and kept her struggles silent.
In her late 20’s, she began to fear that she would never marry a man and have a family. She lacked the trust that God would provide for her future and fell into an emotionally dependent relationship with a woman who pursued her. Although she acted out on these feelings, she still desired the label of Christian; however, she could not reconcile both labels. She chose the label Christian and surrendered to God’s will for her life. Her identity in Christ is not based on feelings, but rather on truth. We must choose whether we will be marked by our conformity to culture or by our obedience to Christ.